Some days, I wonder

And I'm sure you do, too - why I'm marrying Dave - especially after that last post. Peeing in the sink. Sheesh!

Trust me, he really IS housebroken. You have my word on that.


My nerd is a geek of the highest order. He moved halfway across the country to be with Alli and I, knowing it would be easier for him to move to a telecommute position, than it would be for me to up and leave here and try to find work and affordable daycare in DC. He worships the ground I walk upon - most of the time - and he can be the sweetest man alive (except when he sneaks upstairs and scares the SHITE out of me while I'm doing laundry), and he loves spending time with us. He is the reason Alli will probably grow up and become a scientist after their numerous experiments they've had with dry ice, and the planting/potting that took place yesterday. He teaches her things I could never think to....

But the real reason I love him is his quirks. The way he thinks about things - his thought processes boggle my mind because his brain never seems to sleep. Seriously, he codes in his dreams! But when he is single-minded and focused just on me, or our family, it makes it all worth it. By "all" I mean: All the weekends he has worked, all the hours he has had to eat while fixing code he broke, and trying to help, but not quite knowing what to do and then making a problem bigger. Typical male, that.

Sure, he hasn't remembered to pack my lunch on a consistent basis for the last few weeks, but he's had code and the conference on his mind. He's been right grumpy lately, too while playing catch-up constantly. But when he heads to bed with me and holds me, it makes almost everything all right.

So yep. Mark the calendars.Circle the last week of October and the first week of November. We still haven't narrowed an actual date down yet. I'm hoping that will come with the ring. We've picked caterer (shout out to Josh & Janan!), still searching for a good reception and ceremony location, still need to find a dress, and figure out what the hell kind of theme we're really going for. Piece of cake, eh? Ahhh crappies. We still have to figure out the cake, too. Flowers. Other dresses. Officiant. Does the list ever end? Thank the Gods we have a little less than 18 months left to plan.

I'm good at taking tests

Did I tell you dear reader that Dave shaved on Saturday?

No, no, not just a simple trim here and there; he shaved his ENTIRE beard/goatee/fumanchu and mustache OFF.

We're talking gone. No more facial hair.

He had tried to explain to me that when he was working years ago, co-workers used to call him 'baby Dave' because without facial hair, he looked so young. I pooh-poohed him and dared him basically to shave it all off.

HOLY SH&*%&%*$!!!

Mind you, he's MY man and I love him and think he's hot, while other people look at me strangely. Without his facial hair he not only looks younger but I think he's *MAJOR HOT* in MY book. *L*

Seriously, I couldn't look at him straight for more than half a day. The first kiss between us, without him having the beard... was weird. It felt like I was cheating on Dave with.... Dave. He joked, saying "Ahh..we'll have to come up with who's name you call out later, baby." and wiggled his eyebrows at me. I just about fainted. *L*

So we had a nice, physical weekend beginning on Sunday because we couldn't very well be physical at Kathleen & Charlie's house - that's just rude for visitors to fool around in their host's house, in my humble opinion.

Needless to say, Dave & I have been exhausted. hee hee hee.

Well, tonight he tells me grudgingly that I passed the test.

The test for what? I ask him.

He stops and says he doesn't know if he should tell me and I have to promise not to get upset with him and to not take it the wrong way.

I agree, all the while thinking in the back of my head that I messed something up, or he's going to tell me that I have a larger ass than Mercury... it could be anything.

He goes on to tell me that his two previous girlfriends FREAKED OUT when he shaved his beard. As in they told him they hated it and for him to NEVER do it again.

And here I am, LOVING it and thinking he's the hottest thing to rock my world in ever, without the facial hair. No wonder his ego .... and other parts... felt larger this weekend!

How was your Valentine's Day?

I didn't think Dave got me anything - and seriously, I would have been fine if he hadn't because of something he said the other night.

We were sitting on the couch together, snuggling, and watching that awesome USA cable show, "Monk".

Dave turns to me and says, "You're my Trudy." My heart seriously melted right then and there. He goes, "No, seriously, if something happened to you, I'd turn into him," he pointed at the actor Tony Shalhoub working as Mr. Monk on the TV.

Anyone who's seen "Monk" knows that the title character is basically OCD to the Nth degree and cannot shake hands, is afraid of milk, and a whole host of other neuroses. His wife Trudy was a reporter who was killed in a car bomb attack more than a decade ago in TV world and it drove Monk over the edge to the parody of humanity he appears as in the show.

I thought that was just the sweetest thing coming from Dave. Awwww.

But still, the boy did FAR more than I expected. He had some beautiful, gorgeous red roses sent to me from Calyx & Carola florists to my work. And then when I got home, he had the ever-traditional Vermont Teddy Bear waiting for me. This year he got me
a pirate bear we decided to name "Scurvey"

A nice, quiet dinner with Alli, and then a couple hours of uninterrupted...TV. Yes, we watched television and then passed out around 10:30pm. I still wasn't feeling well and my leg was bothering me. More on that in the next post.

Still, it was a wonderful Valentine's Day. :)

Love is

~When he takes a shower because you gently nudge him in the direction of the bathroom

~When he makes a snack and gives you the first bite

~When he puts up with sometimes neurotic worrying

~Him, even though he can't sleep and has code in his head (he's a web developer after all), and he tries to be really still and stay in bed with you while you sleep because he knows you can't sleep without him.

~When he randomly molests you and just grins

~When he's making dinner even before you walk in the door

~When he starts ring shopping because he felt bad due to a miscommunication that led you to think your Christmas pressie was in fact a ring - when it wasn't lol

~When he pays to have Merry Maids come in and clean (this too, could also be laziness - because if they didn't clean, then I'd enlist his help anyways lol) every two weeks so you don't have to

~When he sits and tries to reason with a 5 year old/reads an age appropriate science book to a 5 year old/tucks in your child every night with bear hugs

~When he kisses you goodnight and cuddles you close...and lets you cuddle close even though you make him too warm

Just some of what love is